I was devastated when my breakup happened; it is hard to cope up with trauma and mental abuse a distorted relationship brings to a human. It was almost 3 am at night, and I was roaming alone in the streets of Alabama with no one to talk to. I started downloading phone app through which I could talk to someone. People don’t realize the value of someone talking to them until and unless they are left alone with no one to talk to.
I chose relationships topic in Opentalk and started talking to this guy from Paris, he listened to my whole story and mentioned, “In the world full of miserable things- heartbreak is a luxury.” In 15 minutes he boosted my morale made me realize that my life is much more than a relationship which didn’t work out and how love for one self and family is more important than that of a partner. He asked me to forgive myself- how the relationship was not my control, and practically I could do nothing to save it other than doing it later. But you know what they say, better soon than later.
He gave me his number before hanging up, and I went back home, apologized to my ex and said that I would be more than happy to break up as long as we get to stay friends and cherish whatever we had rather than crying over something which was not in over hand.
Thanks to Opentalk, I got someone to show me direction when all gates closed.
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This week saw a minor roll out on Opentalk. Although small in the overall change effort a tectonic shift for the users interacting with platform and driving value out of every interaction. Since inception, by design the conversation length on the platform was limited. And based on the users interacting, the same could be extended for another limited duration. The idea for doing so relies on few hypothesis, assumed primarily to be deeply rooted in a user’s behaviour across the plethora of regular activities. A few such hypothesis were, and not limited to:
1.Fatigue: Conversations tend to get tiring after a point of time once the novelty or the jest of it is over. Fatigue might set in as the conversation digressing away exponentially with every passing minute unless of course, it continues to remain a mutually helpful discussion. In such a scenario, arriving at a logical concluding time might not be possible. Hence, the solution of short time limited conversations.
2.Butcher’s Guilt: Even in the scenario, when the conversations go on for a limited appreciable duration, sometimes, it continues to drag on as none on the line wants to explicitly give up, though mentally both would have done it long back. Suggesting to ‘hang up’ would reflect losing interest to the point of being viewed as insensitive, if the other one is still Vested in the conversation. It also innately would acknowledge that the conversation has stretched beyond a point and right to let it go, which by nature is difficult.
The feature was available for over 2.5 months and provided fascinating peek into behaviour around conversations. From an everyday user perspective, conversations are such integral part of daily life but rarely is it broken down, analysed and learnt from. Of course, not considering the professional speakers, politicians, etc. Coming back, conversation insights were something to ponder over.
Firstly, Persistence: Conversations post proper introductions usually persisted, proving once again that proper context and the setting can lead to meaningful and enriching conversations.
Secondly, Great introductions took longer: To being with, introductions were factored to take only about 30 seconds, however, as conversations grew in time and effort, it became apparent that real conversations need introductions and that too longer intros. The better the introduction and context setting, more interesting the conversations ended up being and as a result happier users.