Some people don’t like to talk too much but Opentalk can be helpful for everyone. It’s worth making an effort to talk through what’s going on for you with someone you trust. Good things that can come from talking are:
- It’ll help you sort through your thoughts and clarify whatever is going on for you at the time. While all your stuff is internal, it’s hard to see how it really works. Once you’ve had to say it out loud, it gets easier to get hold of.
- If you just worry about your problems without talking to someone about them, they probably start to seem worse and bigger than they are. Talking will cut them down to size.
- Someone who’s not involved in whatever’s bothering you might suggest options you haven’t thought of.
- If you’re talking to someone neutral, but caring, they won’t take sides or push an agenda.
- Talking is like a pressure valve for your head. Switch it on once in a while.
Deciding who you want to talk to is an important first step. However, it is very important that you can trust the person you decide to speak with. Sometimes the reason why people don’t talk to others is because they actually don’t actually know who they want to speak to. You might want to talk with a friend, or someone slightly older, or a family member. Sometimes potential helpers may not have the experience or knowledge to provide the advice or support you need.
Talking about your feelings can help you make sense of them. Sometimes, just talking about what is upsetting you to someone you trust can help you sort through your feelings, or make the situation clearer.
If you’ve been keeping things to yourself, a situation seems more overwhelming than it actually is. The person you talk with might help you see the situation in a new or different perspective. Someone outside the situation might also be more neutral about what’s going on because the outcome won’t affect him or her personally. The person you speak with might also suggest options that you had not thought about before.
As we mention before talking through your concerns can also be a great way to vent and release pent-up tension. Just “getting the problem out” can help you feel better. Not only does it feel great, but it can also give you new insights into what’s happening in your life.